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How’s your relationship with your doctor? You might not see your doctor as much as your significant other, but the doctor patient relationship is pretty important, so make sure it’s a good fit. Does your visit to the doctor stress you out or make you more confident in your health journey? Your doctor is your partner in health so it should make you more confident.

It’s very important that you have a doctor that will work for you and help you make sure your body is functioning at its best. Let’s talk about some signs it’s time to break up with your doctor, and some tips for choosing a doctor.

1 – Their Practice Doesn’t Align with Your Family’s Health

This is one of the biggest things to look for and is a big sign to find a new doctor. A doctor is a partner in your health, but they aren’t in the driver’s seat. You don’t want them taking over control, and in the same respect you want a relationship where you listen to your doctor. Otherwise, why bother going to one? When it comes down to it, you are in charge of finding a doctor who is aligned with your family’s health and breaking up with one who’s not.

When choosing a doctor, take time for an interview or phone consult to get to know them. During the interview ask them questions that are important to you and your family’s health. Be prepared with questions that will help determine if the doctor is a fit for you.

For example, you might ask if they are open to alternative therapies? Do they accept patients who don’t vaccinate? How does nutrition contribute to health? Pay attention to if they are a good fit for your family whether they have the same views or are open to different views.

2 – They Don’t Answer Your Health Questions

When you ask a question, are you given a thorough answer or are you expected to just accept what they say as gospel? Do they take the time to explain their answer in a way that is understandable or do they use lots of medical speak that leaves you even more confused than before? A doctor should give you their expertise and the information to make the best decision for your health.

When choosing a doctor, take time in the interview to ask questions about health concerns you have and conditions your family has dealt with. How does the doctor respond to those questions and do they answer your questions clearly? If you understand your health care, then you are more likely to get the most out of it.

3 – You Don’t Know the Plan

Have you been prescribed a medication or treatment without knowing the plan for getting you off the treatment? If they have no plan, then you are going to be on them for the rest of your life and they aren’t getting you better. They are managing your illness. You should know the plan and you should be given steps for improving your health. That might include things like nutrition, exercise, ways to manage stress, and improving your sleep habits.

When looking for a doctor ask for help. Ask your friends if they have had success with a doctor who gave them a plan and actions steps for improving their health. Word of mouth can be one of the best ways to find a health care practitioner in your community.

4 – They Don’t Care for Their Own Health

Doctors are people too! They can succumb to the stresses of modern-day life that lead to bad habits and an unhealthy body. Let’s be honest, are you taking your car to a mechanic who drives a rust bucket with the tail pipe dragging behind it? No! Same goes for your doctor. If you see them in the hospital cafeteria scarfing down a super value meal, then it might be time to break up with your doctor.

When you interview your doctor, ask them what they do to take care of their health. What types of exercise do they do? Do they think nutrition is important for health? How do they reduce stress? They are experts in the body and should know how to best take care of their own. It’s a lot easier to take health advice from someone who also cares for their own body.

Sometimes You Have to Break Up with Your Doctor and Get Help Choosing a New Doctor

Breaking up with your doctor and choosing a new doctor could be one of the most important things you do for your health. You are in charge of your health and are the one who has to live with your health outcomes. If you aren’t getting the results you deserve, it’s time to look for a doctor who thinks differently. You deserve a great doctor patient relationship with a doctor working in your best interest. You’re the patient- You’re the boss. You hired them. So, you can fire them at any time.

If you have a bad experience with one doctor that doesn’t mean the right doctor isn’t out there for you. You just have to find the right doctor!  Put some time in. You don’t pick a spouse overnight and finding a doctor can take time too. Social media makes it easy to ask for recommendations and to look at reviews. In fact, there are websites dedicated to reviews so you can see what other people have experienced. Just remember it is ultimately your responsibility to make the right choices for your health, including the choice of your doctor.

Are Your Looking for a New Doctor and a New Approach?

If you want to know more about doctors who think differently and believe in supporting your best health, please check out Dr. Patrick Flynn’s book, “I Disagree: How These Two Words Are the Secret to Thinking Differently and Taking Control of Your Health”

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